Is Marriage Enrichment for troubled marriages?
Almost every marriage has some troubles,
so in that sense "yes". But Florida Better Marriages leaders are not (usually)
psychologists, psychiatrists or marriage counselors. So for really
troubled marriages we urge you to get professional help.
Then what is the point of Marriage
Marriage Enrichment is for every
marriage. Experts tell us that only ten per cent of marriages are really
happy. Marriage Enrichment seeks to increase that percentage. And, even
if you are in that lucky 10% we think Marriage Enrichment or something
like it is needed to keep you in there.
Are Marriage Enrichment and Marriage
Encounter the same thing?
Marriage Encounter is a different
organization, or really several different organizations. Marriage
Enrichment and Marriage Encounter have different models about how to
achieve a happy marriage. Marriage Encounter usually has a religious
component -- Marriage Enrichment usually does not. There are other differences, but we all share
the goal of helping to achieve better marriages.
Who is Marriage Enrichment for?
We think it is for every couple. Many of
our members have been married for many years. Some couples are newly-wed
and a few join before they get married.
Do we have to go away for a week-end?
We think that going on a retreat is a
great way to start. You get to spend the time time together (usually in
a beautiful location) and really concentrate on each other. But our
lives are so busy these days that isn't always possible. Other options
include meeting weekly, monthly or other period of time for a series of
Who is Better Marriages?
ACME is the acronym for
Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment.
Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment is doing
We all want the same thing, whether our
relationship has just begun or we’ve been married for years: We want a
healthy, mutually-satisfying relationship with the one we love.
Check us out. We’re confident you’ll find something that serves your
Better Marriages exists to serve you as a couple, whatever the stage of your life
- We have resources you can use to
strengthen the connection between you.
- We sponsor events, regionally and
nationally, to stimulate your ongoing growth together.
- We sponsor marriage enrichment
groups where couples gather for mutual support and encouragement.
- We even offer training for couples
who want to have an impact on the lives of (or, “lead and
influence”) other couples.
Who is Florida Better Marriages?
Florida Better Marriages is a group of
couples who believe in marriage, know that a good marriage takes some
work, and that communication with other married couples really helps
improve our own relationships. We are not affiliated with any religious
denomination. We are part of
International Better Marriages which is
based in Winston-Salem, North Carolina.
Who are the leaders?
Florida Better Marriages
retreats are led by
certified leader couples who are well trained and have taught or
assisted in leading events. They are not "full time". Some leaders are
psychologists; some are ministers; some are teachers; but those are not
requirements. The requirement is that they be trained and certified by
Better Marriages. While Better Marriages leaders often facilitate on-going enrichment
groups, certification is not a requirement to facilitate a group.
of the Better Marriages Model?
Does Better Marriages have a model of marriage
enrichment? Well, rather than referring to an Better Marriages model, it might be
more accurate to say that there is an Better Marriages style or that there are
distinctive elements which are promoted in leadership training and which
characterize Better Marriages enrichment activities.
Couples use their own experience for learning and the focus of any
enrichment event is each couple’s own marriage. When information from
outside sources is used in an event, couples are helped to take that
information and apply it to their own experience.
Couples can help couples. Within a small group, couples can find an
environment of safety, trust, and community. Small group process is used
as a powerful tool to help couples gain a sense of “we are not in this
boat alone;” to gain encouragement and motivation from other couples; to
learn alternatives for handling issues common to most couples; and to
gain hope or “inspiration” from hearing other couples talk about things
that are meaningful in their marriage. Within the groups, there is no
confrontation, analyzing, or prescribing — each person “speaks for
self,” sharing his own experience and gives others support and
Couples talking to each other about their relationship is central to
Better Marriage’s approach to marriage enrichment. Dialogue between couples may
occur privately or publicly. In “open” couple dialogue within a small
group, couples, one at a time, talk together aloud in the presence of
the group. Other couples may respond by their own open dialogue on the
same or similar issue and by statements of identification and
encouragement. The experience of each couple contributes to the
enrichment of other couples.
Leader couples, married to each other, who are willing to share from
their own marriage experience provide models, establish the climate of
safety, openness, support, and sharing within the group. Leader couples
make themselves vulnerable and demonstrate openness within the group.
They “work for better marriages, beginning with their own.” Leaders come
as participants and not as experts.
Positive Growth Focus:
Enrichment is based on the assumption that each couple has strengths on
which to build. Identifying these strengths and building on them is an
essential element for an enrichment activity. Growth plans and
agreements for specific action by each partner help couples make
step-by-step progress toward the goals they set for their marriage.
Better Marriages as an organization is not faith-based. In enrichment events,
couples are encouraged to explore meaning and direction in all areas of
their lives, as individuals and as partners. Developing the spiritual or
faith dimension in marriage may be expressed through dialogue or in
other more focused experiences.